Just think for a minute – What does happiness mean to you?
Each person understands this term differently, and this is normal because every person feels happiness in different things and in different ways. Of course, there are some well-known situations, factors or whatever you want to call them, which, if you have, people would consider you as a happy person. For example – good health, wealth, family, loved person near you etc. People used to say; “I am a happy person because I have a family close to me, or I have a good job, or I have good friends etc.
Just think – what makes you a happy person?
Please, think at least about three factors which make you happy. The three factors that first come to your mind are the most important for you at this stage of your life. There is a well-known fact that nothing is more permanent in our life than temporality. And it is so true. Everything is so changeable around, even inside you, things are changeable too. One day you are happy to just have a cup of coffee in the cozy coffee shop, and some other day you feel that you need to receive some expensive gift from Tiffany’s to make you feel real happiness. One more example: sometimes you are so happy to have a seat on the crowded bus or metro, but some other day, you need to have or achieve something extraordinary in order to feel the same happiness and emotions.
What gives you happiness doesn’t have to give the same level of happiness to your friend, spouse, child or somebody else. Sometimes you think that you know what can be the best for the other person or what can make them happy. It is often true, but you never know how that person feels about it. It is not possible to see. It is just possible to feel. Don’t force others to feel the same happiness that you feel about something. Just try to do the best to makes them happy and God will do the rest to make both of you happy.
It would be so good if people around you would truly and honestly be happy, not just politely faking happiness with their smiles. You can feel and see when some person is truly happy or just acting happy. This is a real big problem nowadays. So many people are FAKING their real feelings. They look so happy, so kind and so friendly, but so often there is a totally different person hiding behind this happy, kind and friendly mask. It is a general social problem, because some days when you don’t feel such happiness as some stranger on the street is showing, you feel that something is not ok with you. Everybody is happy around, but not you. You start to sorry, blaming yourself and going deeper inside you and your bad mood. Who knows? Maybe this stranger is just faking happiness, just because everybody does it. Maybe that person is on the anti-stress pill. This is also dangerous for teenagers. When they are in that stage of their life where their body is developing. They all have some worries inside, either a broken heart, or some hard time at university, or many other different kinds of troubles, and all that they can see around is happy people. They go to a doctor and ask for some help, and they can get prescribed some anti-depression pills to get over it.
When I first moved to Canada, I was finding it so strange when a shop assistant would ask me that same question “How are you doing today?”, where they don’t even care and don’t even want to hear my answer. It is happening every day and everywhere here. I was asking my husband: “Why do they ask me this question if they don’t want to know my answer?” I understand it is just a kind and polite question, it is just a habit to ask it, and I always have the same polite answer that everything is fine, ok or great. I still don’t understand this habit until today. From the other side, maybe this fake friendly question “How are you doing today?” from some stranger could make somebody happy. Maybe it can make somebody feel cared about, I don’t know.
The highest level of FAKE HAPPINESS can be seen on social media nowadays. Everybody wants to look so happy on the photos. People want to show their fabulous perfect life, especially girls. Plenty of girls are real show-off champions. They want to show others their happiness, “real” beauty and beautiful fancy life. Plenty of girls never posts any single photo without editing. It is so easy to use free easy and user friendly editing tools and filters. It is becoming some type of addiction. All you can see is happy faces on Facebook and Instagram. People just want to show others how happy they are. Just think a minute and think about this. It is becoming a kind of reflex. When somebody wants to take a photo of you, you automatically draw a nice and happy smile on your face. It is so funny to see some girl behaving naturally, and when some friend would try to take a selfie with her, she would immediately fake a beautiful and happy smile. But when the selfie is taken, she switches back to normal. People can just see a picture, they can’t see what’s hiding behind. It is one thing when people want to look more beautiful in photos than in reality, but it’s totally different when they want to show a totally different life, much more fabulous than they live or they can ever afford.
There is a well-known story: one teenager girl was so addicted to showing a perfect fake life on Facebook that she went into three thousand dollars debts. When her parents found out and asked her where she spent that money, she said she spent it all on nice food in fancy expensive restaurants, as well as on clothes and entertainment. She just wanted to impress her friends and followers with her perfect and happy life.
It is so good to feel happiness inside – real happiness. When you feel real happiness, even your eyes shine differently, more brightly. You spread some positive vibes, positive energy around, and people can feel it. People can feel your real happiness. It can affect them very positively too. At least you can make them smile!
I would like to reccomend you to read this article to help you find your iiner voice and happines!