Two main rules that will change your relationship with your partner.

There are just two main rules for a happy relationship. They work the same for men and women. It is up to you to follow them or not. But those people who don’t know them will definitely be wasting their time with the “wrong” person in their lives.

The first rule – Your relationship should be simple and comfortable for both of you!

Simple relationship means comfortable relationship. Complicated relationship means struggle and broken heart. This is a fact.

A relationship should be simple from the first minutes. You feel like you know each other for hundred years. You should feel some emotional connection between each other. Believe me, you will have a stronger relationship with that person with whom you felt strong connection, much stronger than with someone for whom you need to prove your love. A girl who shows her interest in a guy is much better than that girl for whom he needs to bring stars from the sky.

You shouldn’t run after somebody to show your love and prove it. If you do it one time, you will be doing it every day, and in return, you will have to deal with a cranky and unhappy face every day. Everything should be mutual and equal. If it didn’t work out from the beginning – don’t push it, it is just a waste of time. It means that this person is not the best life partner you can have. 

If the relationship is surviving just because you’re doing everything to save it, then you better stop wasting your time. Your tolerance is not unlimited, one day you will get enough of it. Don’t let anybody involve you in such type of relationships.

Don’t expect people to change because you want it. A person can change just because he/she wants to. Accept people as they are! 

Don’t always try to find explanations why he/she did it this way. He/she did it because he/she wanted to do it! It is that simple. 

If he/she doesn’t love you now, what would make him/her love you tomorrow? Feelings towards your partner are something that you either had from the beginning, or you never had but you just got used to each other. There should be some flame right from the beginning. If you had it – that’s great, there is a higher chance for a healthy and happy relationship. If not, sorry but there is no chance.

Whichever relationship you want and you choose depends only on you. It is your life!

The second rule – relationship should bring happiness.

This is normal, and it should not even be proved. As soon as your relationship starts bringing more struggle than happiness, then it is time to think if you should continue, or put an end to it and move on. 

Do not get used to arguing with each other, or shouting at each other, or crying because of each other. This is not normal! If your relationship doesn’t bring you happiness anymore, then it is useless. So many people live for so many years with each other in an unhappy and difficult relationship, including cheating on each other. If you are not happy with that person, why to continue in that relationship? You shouldn’t do it! Relationship should bring happiness besides the love and support of your partner. Your time is limited on this planet, so you should spend it smartly and you should live happy as much as possible. We can daily experience some stress and negativity with people around us, our co-workers… At least you should feel support, understanding and peace at home with your partner. 

Respect yourself and your time – don’t waste it for someone who doesn’t deserve it. Have a happy life and a perfect relationship with your life partner. Perfect relationships do exist. 

Yours,

Yulianna.